Feng Shui for Mums: What Your Everyday Words Reveal About Your Life Balance
Your words are more powerful than you think. Learn how 'mum talk' reveals where you're out of balance and how Feng Shui can help you realign.
How Conscious Are You?
The 4 Levels of Consciousness That Shape Your Reality
Part 1: Understanding the Layers of Awareness & Spiritual Growth
Have you ever noticed how your perspective on life changes depending on your emotional state, mindset, or personal growth? One moment you feel like life is out to get you — and in another, you feel completely in flow, like the universe is working with you.
This isn’t random. It’s a reflection of your level of consciousness — the inner state from which you’re experiencing the world.
There are 4 core levels (or layers) of consciousness that we all move through. These aren’t rigid stages you pass through once and leave behind. They’re fluid. You can cycle through them daily, even moment to moment.
And for those who feel stuck in survival mode or powerless in life — but sense there must be another way — this is for you. Becoming aware of these levels opens the door to new choices, new energy, and a new way of relating to life.
The more aware you become of which level you’re operating from, the more power you have to shift how you experience your reality.
Let’s explore them.
1. TO ME
Victim Consciousness / Survival State
“Life is happening to me, and I can’t control it.”
This is the foundational layer — where most of us begin. In this state, life feels unfair or overwhelming. We feel powerless, reactive, and often stuck in cycles of blame, fear, or self-pity.
Here, it’s easy to feel like the world (or people) are against you. You might find yourself saying, “Why does this always happen to me?” or “If only they would change, I’d be okay.”
It’s not “bad” — this level is part of the human experience. But staying here too long can lead to burnout, emotional disconnection, and chronic stress.
Gain: RESPONSIBILITY
Let Go of: BLAME
2. BY ME
Responsibility Consciousness / Manifestor State
“Life happens by me. I create my reality.”
This is where real growth begins. You start to take ownership of your choices, your energy, and your outcomes. You move from blaming to claiming. From reacting to responding.
You begin to see that while you can’t control everything, you can influence a lot — especially your thoughts, habits, and beliefs.
This level is empowering. It’s where you might start goal-setting, manifesting, creating vision boards, or stepping into self-development. The challenge here is sometimes trying to control everything — which can become exhausting if not balanced with flow.
Gain: SURRENDER
Let Go of: CONTROL
3. THROUGH ME
Surrender Consciousness - Flow State
“Life flows through me. I allow and align.”
Now you begin to soften. You stop trying to force outcomes and start trusting the process. You realize you’re not separate from life — you’re a part of it.
This is the level of surrender. Of deep listening. Of intuition. You start co-creating with something bigger — whether you call it Source, God, the Universe, Spirit, or your Higher Self.
You follow nudges instead of checklists. You allow rather than chase. And even when challenges arise, you sense there’s a greater purpose unfolding.
Gain: ONENESS
Let Go of: SEPARATION
4. AS ME
Oneness Consciousness - Being State
“I am life. I am the universe experiencing itself.”
This is the most expanded state of consciousness — a rare but powerful place to touch. It’s where the illusion of separation dissolves, and you experience oneness with all that is.
There’s no trying, no seeking — just being. Pure presence. Pure peace. You no longer do life… you are life. Everything feels sacred and interconnected.
This level isn’t about floating off into bliss and escaping the world. It’s about anchoring that sense of unity and wholeness into your everyday life.
Why is this important for your Spiritual Journey?
Whether you’re new to spiritual growth or deep into your personal development path, understanding these 4 levels gives you a compass for your inner world. At times I have heard them referred to as ‘Layers of Spiritual Development’, so it makes sense to build your awareness of the levels of consciousness as you move along your spiritual journey.
The goal isn’t to rush through the levels or shame yourself for being in the “lower” ones. Each level has wisdom. Each serves a purpose. But becoming conscious of them allows you to:
- Witness your emotional triggers with more compassion
- Take empowered steps toward change
- Let go of control when needed
- Reconnect with something deeper than yourself
Which Level are you Living from Most?
Take a moment and reflect.
Which level feels most familiar to you right now?
Where do you notice yourself shifting?
Where do you notice yourself shifting?
There’s no right or wrong — just awareness. And with awareness, comes choice.
In Part 2, we’ll explore how these same 4 levels of consciousness show up in parenting — and how recognising them can transform the way you connect, guide, and raise your children with intention.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to read our latest blog. We hope that it gives you the knowledge you need to continue to make positive change in your little ones’ world.
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Love & blessings,
Lauren xo
Hi, I’m Lauren. A conscious, Libran solo Mumma of two blessings, a son and daughter. I’m all about using Holistic Feng Shui & natural solutions to find a balance. I’m passionate about self-care and wellbeing and determined to help families connect and thrive together.
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