When you’re exploring the energy of being in flow and alignment for the first time, it can be helpful to know what to look for. Here’s what helps me — kind of like a personal diagnostic tool:

I tune in to my emotions.
Higher vibrational emotions like joy, acceptance, passion, and hope are signs that I’m in flow. They tell me I’m in allowance rather than resistance. Even anger can be a positive sign — it often signals that I’m ready to change what’s keeping me stuck. It’s a shift from powerlessness into movement.

I tune in to my environment.
When I walk into a space and it feels light, fresh, airy, and inviting, I know I’m in flow. On the other hand, mess — especially where it consistently gathers — is a message. It’s not there to shame you! It’s simply a gentle call to reflect on where resistance might be showing up in your life. Often, it points to a need for self-care. When I give myself what I truly need, I’m naturally inspired to clear, organise, and enhance that space. That little spark of inspiration? That’s flow returning.

I tune in to my energy.
When I’m in flow, my energy and motivation spike. Tasks that once felt heavy or frustrating get done quickly — sometimes effortlessly — and often better than I expected. It almost feels like an out-of-body experience when I look back at how easily it all came together. That’s inspired action. The opposite? A sluggish, foggy, hibernating version of me that tries to push through but gets nowhere.

I tune in to my body.
My body speaks volumes about whether I’m in flow or resistance. When I feel contraction, tension, or stress — like a tight chest, a racing heart, stiff shoulders, lower back pain, or even little accidents like stubbing my toe — it’s a sign fear is running the show. These physical cues are my body’s way of saying I’m stuck in resistance. But when I’m in flow, my body just is — doing its thing effortlessly, without needing my attention. There’s a sense of ease, trust, and presence. Any sense of dis-ease becomes a gentle messenger nudging me back toward alignment and flow.

I tune in to how I’m connecting with others.
If I feel drawn to connect with my tribe — my family, friends, or soul-aligned people — I know I’m in flow. (I’m an introvert, so this may show up differently for extroverts.) When I’m aligned, being around others lifts me up. There’s something energising about rising together.

I’ve spent years reconnecting with myself after losing so much of who I was — decades in a toxic relationship and pouring everything into motherhood. So I know this doesn’t always come easy, especially if you’re new to this kind of attunement. But it’s worth it. Truly. Getting to a place of self-mastery — where you’re attuned to yourself and your space, prioritising self-care based on what you actually need — is what allows you to feel the shift into flow, alignment, and ease.